Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna

Hey, Shahrukh! I like blue too!!!

But ok, seriously. Where do I begin with this movie?

How about I'll preface this by saying I don't by any means condone adultery. Now, I've never been married, but I've had enough friends and seen enough marriages fall apart to know this: People change as they grow, and you both need to be willing to give 100% to a marriage in order to stay connected. Its something you have to work at every day.

The last thing you need in the midst of a marriage problem is a relationship with the opposite sex distracting you, making the grass appear greener on the other side. I'm not saying you can't have a platonic friendship with a co-worker or whatever, but I am saying there comes a certain point that is too close for comfort...and once you get to that point, I believe anyone has the potential to fall if they land in the wrong situation.

Ok, enough preachy talk--I bring this all up because I think Karan Johar actually did a pretty accurate job in telling a story where this could really happen--in fact, I was really impressed by the way he handled this --up until the last twenty minutes of the movie.
But we'll get to that.

Ok, so here's what Johar got so right-Yes, Maya had a loving husband (I was shouting,"is she crazy?!" during the scene where Abhishek has a candlelit dinner waiting for her when she comes home), but let's face it--Some people(myself included,before I wised up) just don't appreciate the things we have until they are gone. And yes, Shahrukh was kind of a jerk in this film, but he had such a sweet spot when it came to Maya. I have to admit, I found this unhealthily attractive. So in some weird way I guess I could see how Maya did what she did. I'm not saying it was right, and she was dumber than a brick to do it, but it was something I could see happening to someone like her.

Shahrukh's Dev really didn't have as much of an excuse(if you can call it that--there was really no excuse for Maya either), but again, fit with his character. Remember, he's pretty selfish. Can't handle a woman like Rhea(his wife), so he looks for someone who doesn't hurt his ego quite so much. Sadly, this happens every day in the real world.

I loved Abhishek Bachchan's character and for those who say he can't act, I say, "????"--He left me breathless in some of his scenes when he was arguing with Maya!

I also have to mention how much I absolutely loved the song, "Tumhi dekho na"--I was lost in Dev and Maya's world too and quickly forgot they were both married(I'm ashamed to admit-lol-But see how easy it is to stray?)

And is anybody else rooting for a romantic comedy starring Amitabh Bachchan and Kirron Kher? I sure am!! (Or does one already exist and I don't know about it?).

The thing that disturbs me most about the ending is I find it gives the wrong message. No, it didn't ruin the movie for me, I still like it alot, but this would rarely happen in the real world. A movie about infidelity that ends with the two guilty parties riding off into the sunset together(if this describes your current relationship and you think I'm off base, remember I said rarely)? What happens when Dev gets tired of Maya and cheats on her too? Oh well, I guess this is Bollywood and it is Karan Johar. But in the words of my friend Ceci, "Something good usually doesn't come out of something bad." Enough said.

Text (c) 2007 Nida Nazir Bitten By Bollywood


roshani,  February 26, 2008 at 10:37 AM  

Have to diasagree about the last part, I know so many formerly adulterous, and now happily loving couples. They are incredibyl happy together although the road to their joy was paved with pain. Sometimes you make a mistake and choose the wrong person, and then you make another mistake by cheating on that person; but that does not mean you can't find happiness with the person you're meant to be with.

Nida February 26, 2008 at 11:50 AM  

Roshani--I'm not saying it can't happen--It's just my belief that it usually doesn't turn out that way. I'm not trying to lump all adulterous pairs together, as every situation is different, but from what I've seen, things aren't always as rosy as they seemed once the two who cheated actually end up together. They usually are happy in the beginning, but then once reality sets in, things aren't as much fun anymore and they end up breaking up anyways. But, as I said, every situation is different, and your friends are in fact probably very much in love. I don't doubt that.
It's just the message that the film portrays, that if you find happiness with another person during your marriage to someone else, and you decide to cheat, that you should leave your spouse and everything will be all peaches and cream with the new person. I just don't think that's a realistic message.

I should also clarify that I wholeheartedly agree with your statement that just because you couldn't make it work with one person --once that marriage is over---doesn't "mean you can't find happiness with the person you're meant to be with". I'm a firm believer that anyone who's made a mistake can find a second chance at love. Otherwise, I would have to throw in the towel myself!

So its really the cheating part that I'm extremely skeptical on.

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Anonymous,  August 24, 2014 at 1:45 PM  

Kank is one of my favourite films ever because of Maya's character . Okay so it has some bollywood elements like the fiasco about the black beast but who cares I took that particular strand with a pinch of salt.

Maya reminds me of millions of women out there who are trapped in loveless marriages . Unfortunately when that realisation hits you that you are in a loveless marriage it is the worst feeling ever. At that point in your life you reflect on your life and think what do I do now?

Maya tried but she couldn't find happiness with RIshi she just didn't love him.

Not every woman has the courage to walk away from culture , tradition and commitments - eg she may have kids.

Maya married Rishi out of an obligation and a sense of duty .

Dev and Rhea had a love marriage . Dev became bitter and twisted due to his accident and took it all out on Rhea. He grew out of love with her. This is life unfortunately . Sometimes familiarity breeds contempt .

I think Karan Johar handled the topic very well. Some scenes were far fetched like the S&M scene but overall the film stole my heart.

Sadly indian cinema is not ready to deal with such sensitive social topics like extra marital affairs and unhappy marriages.

Bollywood deals with finding love and all the romance and drama leading up to marriage.

Why doesn't Bollywood deal with what comes after marriage? Arth was another amazing film which I saw recently and it blew my mind.

Mmohabbat aur maut dono bin bulaye mehmaan hain .......what an amazing dialogue!

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